One of the most valuable things I’ve learnt in my life is that how I feel and behave is largely down to me. Generally speaking, no one can make anyone else feel or act in a particular way. Discovering the power of choice – knowing you can choose how to respond to situations rather than blindly reacting to them is hugely empowering and a fundamental step in taking responsibility for shaping your own life.
Personal choice extends to general well-being, and breakthroughs in neuroscience now suggest that just like everything else, happiness is a learnt ability and you can actually train yourself to feel happy. Broadly speaking, you can do this by choosing to regularly engage with activities and thoughts that make you feel better in yourself and about yourself rather than one’s that don’t.
Your body’s natural way of learning takes care of the rest, recording information in its dense network of neural pathways and cellular memory. When you have a new experience you literally grow the neural pathways and collect cellular memory to ‘do’ the experience. In effect, your subconscious mind (which incorporates the body and brain) creates a sort of inner map so you’ll recognise the experience again. Each time you revisit that experience the neural network and its map is automatically reinforced. It’s an accumulative process and the more you experience positive states, the greater your capacity and the more likely you are to continue to feel them.
Even better, neuroscience tells us the human body is literally saturated in receptor cells for endorphins and opiates, the mood enhancing ‘bliss’ hormones it produces which also act as natural pain suppressers. Apparently, it has more receptors to experience happiness than any other feeling, and all those receptors are just waiting to be switched on to flood you with feel-good sensations.
So isn’t it about time you took being happy seriously? It’s easy to get submerged by your own troubles and challenges and by world crises playing out around you. But in order to function effectively and live in a fulfilling and meaningful way, you need to be happy and feel good within yourself. And rather than leave it to chance, it’s within your power to cultivate your own happiness.
Top Things to do for a Happier Life
- Notice what gives you inner happiness and do more of it!
- Take pleasure in the simple things life offers.
- Focus on positives rather than negatives, ie: look at what you’ve got rather than what you haven’t, look at what can be done rather than what can’t, look at what you’ve achieved rather than what you haven’t
- Lower your expectations and recognise when your best is enough.
- Appreciate your daily achievements, no matter how small.
- Cultivate a kinder, less self-critical attitude towards yourself.
- Look to see the good in others.
- Practice small acts of kindness (it feels nice to give).
- Be thankful for all that’s positive in your life. Giving thanks to the universe, a higher force, nature (whatever fits for you) will connect you to the good things you already have but may take for granted.
- Respect and look after your physical needs, such as getting enough sleep, rest and having a healthy diet.
- Make time for having fun and play. The feel-good effects of endorphins can stay in the system for up to twelve hours.
- Meditate, practice yoga or use relaxation tapes. As well as calming you they will boost the production of endorphins.
- Exercise regularly – walking energetically whilst swinging your arms is an easy way of raising endorphin levels.
- Be spontaneous to get a shot of those endorphins!
And when you’re not feeling great, why not remind yourself that you have some choice in the matter, and let the words of the philosopher and author Albert Camus inspire you as they did me:
“In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.“